I think everyone has found themselves incredibly uninspired and despondent at times. It’s a part of life. However normal or natural it is, being stuck in a rut really just sucks. Some might say that feeling low and depressed will help you appreciate life more when you overcome the slump you’ve found yourself in, and that might be true, yet I think most of us wishes we never had to experience such feelings at all. They suck all the colour out of everyday life, you start procrastinating on all the important things that need to be done. Which in turn just adds to those pesky feelings of inadequacy. No fun at all.
So what to do when all the responsibilities and adulting becomes too much?
My solution to this might not be the best one out there, and I’m certainly no expert on the subject, just a small disclaimer
When this happens to me I usually allow myself to become a hermit for a short while. Now I don’t mean that I shut myself in and don’t interact with anything or anyone at all. I’m merely more selective. I choose to focus on a few specific people and hobbies. This allows me to not only have some time for myself, but also assures that I don’t spread myself too thin with all the expectations of society. Okay, so some people might get offended and what not, when that occurs I just simply let them go. What use is there in being surrounded by people who can’t accept that you might need some time and space to yourself and your closest humans?
If you’re an introvert like me, then you know how hard, and not to mention mentally tiring, it can be to keep up with too many social relations at once. So I focus on other things. (There’s this really fun and interesting personality test you can take to gain some insight on yourself.)
I also don’t force myself to do things I feel anxious about or find overwhelming. Something I would do on a normal day to challenge myself. It’s incredibly important to allow yourself a break. No matter what society thinks. Of course we always have obligations that can’t be neglected. Like work or school. However, there are always other things we can give ourselves breaks from.
Another thing I like to do is finding new books or hobbies. This allows me to put all my focus on one single thing. Kind of like the mindfulness method. Lately I’ve been really into watercolour painting.
Watercolour peonies I painted a few days ago, inspired by Wonder Forest, check out her Instagram here. She’s an amazing artist!
Usually I would read, but being an English Major I already do enough reading for school. The current novels for school are both The Crying of Lot 49 by Pynchon, and Wieland by Charles Brockden Brown. Interesting reads but not what I would have picked up myself. I’ve been dying to read The Luminaries by Eleanor Catton, which has been sitting in my bookcase for almost a year now.
“It is 1866, and Walter Moody has cometo stake his claim in New Zealand’s booming gold rush. On the stormy night of his arrival, he stumbles across a tense gathering of 12 local men who have met in secret to discuss a series of unexplained events: a wealthy man has vanished, a prostitute has tried to end her life, and an enormous cache of gold has been discovered in the home of a luckless drunk. Moody is soon drawn into a network of fates and fortunes that is as complex and exquisitely ornate as the night sky. “
As always I’m straying from my original point. What I want to say is that when adulting becomes too much, give yourself a break. It’s ok. Have a little cry if you want to, wallow in self-pity for a moment, let yourself simply feel what you are feeling. Binge watch a new Netflix series, play The Sims, or find a new hobby. Taking a break and cutting yourself some slack will give you the opportunity to recharge, and possibly gain a new perspective of the path you’re on and the things going on in your life.
Till next time,
Ida Gabriella xx